The Power of Honesty: Why I No Longer Subscribe to the 'Don't Speak Ill of the Dead' Mantra

The Power of Honesty: Why I No Longer Subscribe to the 'Don't Speak Ill of the Dead' Mantra

Losing a loved one is never easy. But what happens when we feel pressure to only remember the good and ignore the bad? In this blog post, I share my personal journey of learning to embrace the truth and find healing in the midst of grief.

After my mother passed away, I felt consumed by guilt, shame, and regret. Our relationship was complicated, and I struggled to come to terms with the fact that it wasn't always perfect. But through my pain, I discovered the power of honesty and self-discovery.

I realized that by ignoring the bad, I was dishonoring my mother's memory and preventing myself from fully healing. It wasn't until I acknowledged the truth, both the good and the bad, that I was able to find peace and joy in my memories of her.

Through writing and self-reflection, I was able to release the pain and unlock the good memories that had been hidden away. And through it all, I learned that God is a father to the fatherless and a mother to the motherless, providing the love and support we need even when our earthly relationships are complicated.

So if you're struggling with grief or loss, know that it's okay to feel all the feels. It's okay to acknowledge the good and the bad, and to find healing through honesty and self-discovery. And remember, you're not alone. We all have thorns growing alongside our roses, but it's in embracing the truth that we can find the beauty in our pain.

This week meditate on these scriptures:

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

1 Thessalonians 4:14 For if we believe Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus

Psalm 119:50 This is my comfort in my affliction, for Your word has given me life.

Coach Indy

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