This healing journey can be as difficult or as easy as you make it. But what it can't be is ignored. We can't allow our cute excuses to prevent us from actively pursuing the wholeness we desperately need and seek. You know those cute excuses like: 'I have a lot going on,' 'nobody's perfect,' 'this is just the way I am,' or 'it don't take all that.' But ignoring that inner voice that says something is not right, can lead to a far worse situation, where we find ourselves in a dark whole wondering how we got there.
I've found that we make healing difficult because we treat it as another goal or task on our to-do list rather than the way of life that it is. Thus when the desired outcome doesn't meet our expectations, we throw our hands up and go back to old habits. But were those expectations filtered through God? Did He say that the relationship, business, job, etc that we want were the rewards for our healing? And if He did, did He say they would come in a week, month, year or heck even 5 years?
The benefits of healing are not tangible. You are too precious to God for Him to allow the source of your joy and strength to be dependent on someone or something other than Him. Think about it, poor relationships, whether romantic, platonic, or business, are the reason you are on this journey in the first place. The purpose of healing and walking in wholeness is that you discover who you are in Him and learn to rely on Him in every area of your life. Don't get me wrong, the word does say it is not good for man to be alone, and we need people to flourish. However the ability to discern healthy relationships is the necessary ingredient we can't rush.
If you find yourself on an emotional rollercoaster or feel like you leave one battle and fall into another, that is a clear sign that you need more time in God's presence. Consistency is key. While there is no condemnation in God, don't cover yourself in those cute excuses and allow too much time to pass without communing with Him. One thing I have learned on this journey is that the further I stray, the more difficult the fight on the road back. Remember God loves you, with an everlasting love, He sees you hurting and is just waiting for you to come back home.
The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. And those who know Your name will put their trust in You; for You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You. -Psalm 9:9-10