Do you ever find yourself getting weary in your efforts to make positive changes in your life? Maybe you go on a diet with the goal of losing a specific amount of weight, or you start saving money with the hope of being able to buy a house or car. Perhaps you even embark on a healing journey with the end goal of finding a spouse. While it's true that having a "why" can be motivating, sometimes attaching rewards to our change efforts can actually make us feel more tired and discouraged.
As women, we often say that we are the prize. But if that's the case, why isn't being better, doing better, and having better enough to keep us motivated? Why do we feel the need to attach external rewards to our efforts?
The truth is, when we attach rewards to our change efforts, we set ourselves up for disappointment. We may not achieve the reward we're seeking, or it may not come at the time we expect. And when that happens, we can become discouraged and lose our motivation.
So what's the solution? It's simple: make yourself the reward. When you make yourself the prize, the journey becomes possible and the process becomes a lifestyle. Rather than focusing on external rewards, focus on the intrinsic value of the changes you're making. Ask yourself, "How will this change make me feel?" and "How will it improve my life?" When you can connect with the intrinsic value of your efforts, you'll find that you have more energy and motivation to keep going.
Of course, making yourself the reward isn't always easy. It requires a shift in mindset and a commitment to valuing yourself and your efforts. But the rewards are worth it. When you make yourself the prize, you'll find that your journey becomes more sustainable, and you'll be able to achieve the changes you want to make in your life.
So if you're feeling weary in your efforts to make positive changes, remember: you are the prize. Focus on the intrinsic value of your efforts, and make yourself the reward. With this mindset, you'll find that the journey becomes possible, and the process becomes a lifestyle.
Meditate on these scriptures
Galatians 6: 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up (NIV).
Ecclesiastes 9:11 I returned and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding,nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all. (KJV)
Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (NIV)
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